COUPLES & MARRIAGE COUNSELING IN MINNESOTA AND WISCONSIN
Connect. Rebuild. Rediscover what true partnership can look like—no matter where you are in your relationship.
Sometimes it’s the silence that hurts the most—and sometimes it’s the fights.
Either way, it’s breaking something you both care about.
You used to feel close—even when things were hard. Now, it’s like you're speaking different languages… or not speaking at all. One of you is still reaching out, while the other is pulling away, unsure if there's anything left to hold on to.
Love alone isn’t enough anymore—not without trust, respect, and honest communication. Maybe you’ve drifted apart. Maybe something broke, and neither of you knows how to fix it. Maybe you're lying in the same bed but feel miles apart…or in another room down the hall because you’d rather be alone than risk yet another argument.
You’re not here because you stopped caring. You’re here because caring this much—and still feeling this disconnected—is exhausting, painful, and unsustainable.
Couples therapy isn’t…
A referee blowing the whistle on who’s right or wrong
Endless venting sessions with no real direction
“One-size-fits-all” with a workbook or scripted formula
Just talking about your feelings with no tools to back it up
A place where one person gets ganged up on
A last-ditch effort that’s doomed from the start
What it really is…
An intentional space to process betrayal, rebuild intimacy, or discern next steps
An opportunity to learn how to actually talk—and listen—to each other
Support for both of you, not just the louder or more hurt partner
A reset button for connection, safety, and trust
Skill-building you can use in every relationship
A structured, research-based process
MY APPROACH
I’m here to help you rediscover the joy of being together—with more fun, deeper friendship, true intimacy, and lasting connection than you thought possible.
Sometimes people forget—or don’t realize—communication isn’t chemistry, it’s a skill. And if your relationship feels stuck in the same old patterns—where you’re not really hearing each other or feeling seen—that’s exactly where I come in.
We’ll begin by hitting pause on the painful cycle—the recurring conflicts, misunderstandings, and distance that keep pulling you apart—to uncover what’s really going on beneath it all. It’s not just about the hard words or surface tension; it’s about the feelings and unmet needs that often go unspoken. Together, we’ll explore your story as a couple: what brought you together, and what’s making it hard to stay connected now.
We’ll look at how your early family experiences and previous relationships shape your reactions, expectations, and needs today—helping you see the patterns that influence your relationship. This deeper insight and understanding becomes the foundation for building empathy, connection, and meaningful change that lasts.
We’ll define what a healthy relationship actually looks and feels like—and what it takes to get there. We’ll build powerful skills: how to listen with intention, ask questions with open-minded curiosity, and validate your partner's feelings—even when it’s hard.
The goal isn’t just to stop the fighting—it’s to turn conflict into connection and to use it as a path to deeper trust, understanding, and intimacy.
And when trust has been shaken—by betrayal, emotional distance, painful decisions, or the everyday wear and tear of life—we’ll work toward healing with honesty, emotional attunement, and renewed commitment. Together, we’ll rebuild connection with intention, through meaningful rituals, shared goals, and practical tools that help reignite the spark and keep your relationship growing.
By the time we’re done, it won’t just be about better communication—you’ll have real strategies for managing emotions, repairing after conflict, and seeing one another through a clearer, more compassionate lens.
I know that right now, you may feel scared, alone, or just worn out from being stuck—but you don’t have to stay there. I’m here to help you feel safe, known, appreciated, and deeply connected again. And if healing means choosing a different path, we’ll navigate that together—with clarity, courage, and care.
Couples therapy can help you…
Understand each other’s needs without defensiveness or criticism.
Strengthen intimacy—emotionally and physically.
Make aligned, intentional choices about your future.
Get unstuck from the same looping arguments.
Communicate in ways that actually help you understand one another.
Stronger connection. Better tools. A clear path forward.
Frequently asked questions
FAQs
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That’s actually very common. One partner may feel ready to lean in, while the other is leaning out. That’s okay. It’s my job to create a space that feels safe and respectful for both of you—where no one’s blamed, and both of your voices matter. We’ll move at a pace that works for you, and focus on what each of you truly wants and needs in the relationship.
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Nope, definitely not. I'm not here to take sides or play referee. My role is to support both of you—to understand your perspectives, help you communicate more clearly, and build a stronger relationship together. This work isn’t about blame or keeping score—it’s about connection, clarity, and real change.
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That’s okay. I also offer discernment counseling, a focused, short-term approach designed for couples who are unsure about the future of their relationship. It’s not about fixing problems or jumping into traditional couples therapy right away—instead, it provides a safe space to honestly explore whether you want to stay as you are, commit to working on the relationship, or part ways with clarity and respect.
This process helps both partners gain insight into their feelings and motivations, reduces confusion and blame, and supports making a thoughtful, informed decision about what’s truly best for each of you—whether that means healing together or moving forward separately.
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Absolutely. My practice is a welcoming, affirming space for couples and individuals of all sexual orientations, gender identities, and relationship structures. I am committed to providing inclusive, respectful, and knowledgeable support for LGBTQIA+ clients. Whether you're navigating relationship dynamics, identity exploration, or the unique challenges that can come with being part of the LGBTQIA+ community, I'm here to support you with compassion and without judgment.